Relationships.

[BumblebeeCody]

(07-18-2012 11:28 PM)Beware of Cuccos Wrote:  

(07-17-2012 12:03 AM)Cinna Wrote:  technically i'm in a relationship right now, but we haven't seen or even really talked to each other since we started dating, and it's been like a month now. i don't count it as anything because of the lack of communication, and i should probably say something soon. i'm sure he feels the same anyway.

but then there's my ex that i've mentioned before, we dated on and off for 6 1/2 months. first guy i fell in love with, and the only reason we started going on and off was because during our incredibly short first break up, he fucked someone else. after that it was never really the same, but i still loved him. there were really only two times where we were both truly happy with everything, that's the first month or so we started dating and the time around when he proposed. that only went on for about a month though and we broke up again. shortly after our last break up he dated someone else, they were on and off for 4 1/2 months. now him and i are back to talking again, and i want to be back with him so much. i can be so comfortable around him.

Both of these sound almost exactly like some relationships i've been in. My most recent ex- We rarely talked or saw each other. He loved me, and I loved him too, but it just wasn't in the way we thought. We ended things on good terms.

(1 The first ex- We dated for 6 months. It felt like 10 years. I was 19. I was so in love with him. I sacrificed everything for him. He would cheat on me, break up with me, sleep with someone and come back, but swore up and down that he loved me. Then suddenly one day he broke up with me, and started hanging out with my best friend, A LOT. I was broken. For years. It was horrible. I was miserable. When I was 23 I met..

@2 The second ex- At this point I think I was just desperate and horny. I dated this fool for two years. He hated my tattoos, wouldn't go to any family gatherings, wouldn't allow me to take any pictures of us together, wouldn't even let me put that I was in a relationship on facebook. He had a house and car that his parents gave him, didn't have a job, and was just a lazy drunk. There's nothing wrong with being a lazy drunk, but that's how he was ALL THE TIME. He would go out of his way to make me miserable because he thought it was funny.

(3 Not long after him I started dating the most recent ex, and that ended a few months ago. All i've ever wanted was a family, but now at 26 I feel my time is running out and I am fully prepared to die alone waist deep in cats.

Cinna- I've been through some shit. I suggest you be very cautious, but only YOU know what's right for you. No one else can make that decision for you. I hope everything works out for the best and if you ever need help or anything, feel free to PM me. I'm kind of a pro at (4 bad boyfriends.

(5 Now, as far as what I want in relationships- I want a guy that does not cheat or lie. Someone that will not make fun of me or my tattoos. Someone that likes my friends and family. I want someone I can cuddle up on the couch with and watch a horror movie or play games with. Someone who enjoys the same music as myself. Someone that won't get mad that most of my friends are dudes. I want to be able to cook dinner without him telling me "well I do it this way" and just fucking enjoy it.

@1 I hate people like that. They really don't give a rats arse about the person. Odd how nice people get treated like that because that's one of the worst ways to disrespect someone.

@2 Those dudes(and dudettes) that bring an overbearing force down on another person are pretty pathetic. I never understood this thought of "I can have full control over this person". Talk about being in shackles much...

@3 That's pretty understandable at age 26. But if time is running out, at least be sure that you don't rush into another relationship. To be mistreated once is terrible but to be mistreated a second is honestly pretty upsetting. It's unfair :/

@4 Exactly as I would put it. Simply put to Cinna, the dude is a bad boyfriend.

@5 Kinda the same. No joke, I LOOOOVE a madam with tattoos. The really amazing ones. Like a full arm sleeve art piece, or maybe a gaming related tattoo. It's so awesome. But I know that a lot of dudes hate females with tattoos, or only like the little small ones like a butterfly or something simple. Agreed with the rest of the paragraph too. Respect is probably the key aspect here.




Now gather around kids(and people older than me) as I explain my story. *Strums guitar*

I was around the age of 16-17 when I found true love. I've only ever had one girlfriend and it was OK. Nothing bad happened but we split up once we went to different secondary schools. But I went the entire of secondary school without getting a girlfriend, mainly because I didn't find to my liking or because I couldn't return the feelings. I wanted to wait to get into the open world and find someone there. I did, and my days, was she awesome. Liked Pokemon, loved Anime and Manga, had a great sense of humour, had a lovely American accent and was probably the best looking madam in the world. No female whether famous or not could compare to the sheer beauty of her. She only wore light makeup too. We met a few times are London convention and damn I enjoyed spending time with her. Even going to see her in Leeds at one point. One of the best times I ever had was staying up till 5am everyday during a week holiday. Just us two on webcam watching videos or drawing silly images on MSN.

But I often found she used to lie about herself. Making up parts about what she's done and who she knows. Even though, I knew she was lying I never called her out on it. Then, 2 years since we first met I was told by a friend that the name I knew her by wasn't her actual name. So for two years the person I've has been speaking to non-stop on MSN even met in person, wasn't actually her name. I never told my friends about her because it would seem kinda pointless, I had none person to talk to then because she also knew her(still friends). But I pretty much had to through it on my own.

The amount of pain, knowing that you fell in love with someone who, pretty much, didn't exist is horrible. I put a lot of trust in her and loved her more than anyone. Was pretty much the perfect girl but it wasn't really real. Kinda hard to explain.

See I like the more down to Mars girls than the ones who are the "irritating" type. I don't find girls who wear lots of makeup or show off big boobs attractive. I love a girl with a strong sense of individuality. Has intelligence, humour, self dignity and doesn't flaunt herself (and obviously has the same interests). I don't find those Cheryl Cole/Megan Fox types attractive in anyway because they lack any decent qualities, which obviously results to me being called gay by other wanker males. So when I do find one, I respect them a lot more.