Relationships.

[Beware of Cuccos]

(07-17-2012 12:03 AM)Cinna Wrote:  technically i'm in a relationship right now, but we haven't seen or even really talked to each other since we started dating, and it's been like a month now. i don't count it as anything because of the lack of communication, and i should probably say something soon. i'm sure he feels the same anyway.

but then there's my ex that i've mentioned before, we dated on and off for 6 1/2 months. first guy i fell in love with, and the only reason we started going on and off was because during our incredibly short first break up, he fucked someone else. after that it was never really the same, but i still loved him. there were really only two times where we were both truly happy with everything, that's the first month or so we started dating and the time around when he proposed. that only went on for about a month though and we broke up again. shortly after our last break up he dated someone else, they were on and off for 4 1/2 months. now him and i are back to talking again, and i want to be back with him so much. i can be so comfortable around him.

Both of these sound almost exactly like some relationships i've been in. My most recent ex- We rarely talked or saw each other. He loved me, and I loved him too, but it just wasn't in the way we thought. We ended things on good terms.

The first ex- We dated for 6 months. It felt like 10 years. I was 19. I was so in love with him. I sacrificed everything for him. He would cheat on me, break up with me, sleep with someone and come back, but swore up and down that he loved me. Then suddenly one day he broke up with me, and started hanging out with my best friend, A LOT. I was broken. For years. It was horrible. I was miserable. When I was 23 I met..

The second ex- At this point I think I was just desperate and horny. I dated this fool for two years. He hated my tattoos, wouldn't go to any family gatherings, wouldn't allow me to take any pictures of us together, wouldn't even let me put that I was in a relationship on facebook. He had a house and car that his parents gave him, didn't have a job, and was just a lazy drunk. There's nothing wrong with being a lazy drunk, but that's how he was ALL THE TIME. He would go out of his way to make me miserable because he thought it was funny.

Not long after him I started dating the most recent ex, and that ended a few months ago. All i've ever wanted was a family, but now at 26 I feel my time is running out and I am fully prepared to die alone waist deep in cats.

Cinna- I've been through some shit. I suggest you be very cautious, but only YOU know what's right for you. No one else can make that decision for you. I hope everything works out for the best and if you ever need help or anything, feel free to PM me. I'm kind of a pro at bad boyfriends.


Now, as far as what I want in relationships- I want a guy that does not cheat or lie. Someone that will not make fun of me or my tattoos. Someone that likes my friends and family. I want someone I can cuddle up on the couch with and watch a horror movie or play games with. Someone who enjoys the same music as myself. Someone that won't get mad that most of my friends are dudes. I want to be able to cook dinner without him telling me "well I do it this way" and just fucking enjoy it.

---

(07-17-2012 10:08 AM)Beardy Wrote:  Who thinks exciting passion is important and who thinks day-to-day comfort is important?

I enjoy day-to-day comfort myself, I like knowing i'm being held by someone that loves me, but I think everyone has times where the urge strikes and you just need to go out, find yourself an acceptable member of your preferred sex, and have a night of fucking. No kissing, no last names.

So I would say both are important.