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***Nuudoru*** · 08-13-2012 02:23 AM

(08-13-2012 02:14 AM)Xannidel Wrote: Well think of it this way, would you rather argue over something silly like whether Pixar is meant for kids or not or would you just agree with her and end the argument before it starts up and gets everyone stressed out?

Wouldn't the best choice be to find someone you don't have dumbass fights with all the time?

Xannidel · 08-13-2012 02:29 AM

If you try to do that then you may be looking for a long long time for that girl. To me, relationships will have their ups and downs and yes even including random bickering over silly topics such as Pixar related stuff. Sometimes it is best to just swallow your pride and just agree with her because you know that in the end it is better to agree and enjoy the rest of your day then disagree and possibly have a fight that will end up pissing you off.

Then again i am a rather passive person so if I find the right girl and we have silly fights then I would hope that things would not escalate to fighting or shouting.

**A Zombie Riot** · 08-13-2012 05:01 AM

(08-12-2012 09:34 PM)Xannidel Wrote: So she lied about liking the ring?

That and she lied about what she did with it when I asked her.

Xannidel · 08-13-2012 05:10 AM

I guess I can understand why you were not happy with her lying over something as simple as a fake ring because if she lies about something like this then what is stopping her from lying about other things.

On the other hand, it was just a fake ring and I am not really sure if that is really a justifiable reason to end a relationship.

But don't listen to me, I haven't had a date in over 2 years minus a one nighter in February with an ex.

***Nuudoru*** · 08-13-2012 06:41 AM

(08-13-2012 02:29 AM)Xannidel Wrote: If you try to do that then you may be looking for a long long time for that girl. To me, relationships will have their ups and downs and yes even including random bickering over silly topics such as Pixar related stuff. Sometimes it is best to just swallow your pride and just agree with her because you know that in the end it is better to agree and enjoy the rest of your day then disagree and possibly have a fight that will end up pissing you off.

Then again i am a rather passive person so if I find the right girl and we have silly fights then I would hope that things would not escalate to fighting or shouting.

Well, the problem is that I only have this issue with her. With my other friends we never fight like this. Sure, once in awhile we might get in a heated argument but we can let it go at once. But this girl.. We always let it go too far. I don't know why.

Also, if we look at the example of letting it pass and not arguing against her. That solution just seems so.. Whipped? Why would I have to be the one to not argue about it and just go on with it? She argues about it just as much as I do. Not saying what I have in mind just to be in a relationship just seems pretty damn pathetic.

Xannidel · 08-13-2012 07:20 AM

It's not a matter of being whipped but it is a matter of common sense IMO, why would you risk a fight over something so silly when you can just agree with her that the Pixar movies are AIMED towards children.

Again don't listen to me because I do not have a girlfriend to talk with you all about.

**BumblebeeCody** · 08-13-2012 09:22 AM

(08-13-2012 06:41 AM)Nuudoru Wrote:
(08-13-2012 02:29 AM)Xannidel Wrote: If you try to do that then you may be looking for a long long time for that girl. To me, relationships will have their ups and downs and yes even including random bickering over silly topics such as Pixar related stuff. Sometimes it is best to just swallow your pride and just agree with her because you know that in the end it is better to agree and enjoy the rest of your day then disagree and possibly have a fight that will end up pissing you off.

Then again i am a rather passive person so if I find the right girl and we have silly fights then I would hope that things would not escalate to fighting or shouting.
Well, the problem is that I only have this issue with her. With my other friends we never fight like this. Sure, once in awhile we might get in a heated argument but we can let it go at once. But this girl.. We always let it go too far. I don't know why.

Also, if we look at the example of letting it pass and not arguing against her. That solution just seems so.. Whipped? Why would I have to be the one to not argue about it and just go on with it? She argues about it just as much as I do. Not saying what I have in mind just to be in a relationship just seems pretty damn pathetic.

Just a question, is there something about her you know that no-one else does or do know, but don't want to confront her about. For example, does she lie a lot and you want to call her out on her BS but don't because you care?

***Nuudoru*** · 08-13-2012 04:12 PM

(08-13-2012 09:22 AM)BumblebeeCody Wrote:
(08-13-2012 06:41 AM)Nuudoru Wrote:
(08-13-2012 02:29 AM)Xannidel Wrote: If you try to do that then you may be looking for a long long time for that girl. To me, relationships will have their ups and downs and yes even including random bickering over silly topics such as Pixar related stuff. Sometimes it is best to just swallow your pride and just agree with her because you know that in the end it is better to agree and enjoy the rest of your day then disagree and possibly have a fight that will end up pissing you off.

Then again i am a rather passive person so if I find the right girl and we have silly fights then I would hope that things would not escalate to fighting or shouting.
Well, the problem is that I only have this issue with her. With my other friends we never fight like this. Sure, once in awhile we might get in a heated argument but we can let it go at once. But this girl.. We always let it go too far. I don't know why.

Also, if we look at the example of letting it pass and not arguing against her. That solution just seems so.. Whipped? Why would I have to be the one to not argue about it and just go on with it? She argues about it just as much as I do. Not saying what I have in mind just to be in a relationship just seems pretty damn pathetic.

Just a question, is there something about her you know that no-one else does or do know, but don't want to confront her about. For example, does she lie a lot and you want to call her out on her BS but don't because you care?

No, not really. If there's anything that's BS about her is that she can be so god damn boring. And the only reason is like that is because she has a HUGE complex about being younger than every other friend she has. It's a long story to why this bothers me so much, but it's basically because she tries too hard to be tought and adult and because of that doesn't really care about trying out anything new, or liking anything that might against that persona.

**BumblebeeCody** · 08-14-2012 05:08 AM

(08-13-2012 04:12 PM)Nuudoru Wrote:
(08-13-2012 09:22 AM)BumblebeeCody Wrote:
(08-13-2012 06:41 AM)Nuudoru Wrote:
(08-13-2012 02:29 AM)Xannidel Wrote: If you try to do that then you may be looking for a long long time for that girl. To me, relationships will have their ups and downs and yes even including random bickering over silly topics such as Pixar related stuff. Sometimes it is best to just swallow your pride and just agree with her because you know that in the end it is better to agree and enjoy the rest of your day then disagree and possibly have a fight that will end up pissing you off.

Then again i am a rather passive person so if I find the right girl and we have silly fights then I would hope that things would not escalate to fighting or shouting.
Well, the problem is that I only have this issue with her. With my other friends we never fight like this. Sure, once in awhile we might get in a heated argument but we can let it go at once. But this girl.. We always let it go too far. I don't know why.

Also, if we look at the example of letting it pass and not arguing against her. That solution just seems so.. Whipped? Why would I have to be the one to not argue about it and just go on with it? She argues about it just as much as I do. Not saying what I have in mind just to be in a relationship just seems pretty damn pathetic.

Just a question, is there something about her you know that no-one else does or do know, but don't want to confront her about. For example, does she lie a lot and you want to call her out on her BS but don't because you care?

No, not really. If there's anything that's BS about her is that she can be so god damn boring. And the only reason is like that is because she has a HUGE complex about being younger than every other friend she has. It's a long story to why this bothers me so much, but it's basically because she tries too hard to be tought and adult and because of that doesn't really care about trying out anything new, or liking anything that might against that persona.

Have you tried telling her that?
Saying whether she is young or not, as long as she has respect that's important or that it doesn't matter regardless.

Xannidel · 08-20-2012 11:10 PM

Okay so I seem to be having issues, or at least a concern. Why do people feel that rushing into a relationship is a GOOD thing? To some of you, there is a girl I like and her name is Ami, she has never had a bf before and she has taken to liking me (for some reason or another) and her roomate (and my friend) wants us to be together and I agree but I do not want to rush into this relationship because I am afraid that we might have gone into this too quickly. We have not even known each other for half a year yet and have hung out face to face about 3 or 4 times in total. To me that is NOT enough time to justify feelings or even wanting to date because we have not hung out that much. Yes we do text but not on a daily basis and to me that is fine because I do not want to keep bothering here with small talk when she could be busy.

Am I wrong for thinking that it is too early to date her? I just do not want her first relationship to get ruined because we rushed into a relationship. I believe Ami understands me wanting to wait but our friend says that the longer I wait the less likely she will be interested in me.

I just want to know what I should do.

**SERIOUSLY THOUGH** · 08-20-2012 11:26 PM

(08-20-2012 11:10 PM)Xannidel Wrote: Okay so I seem to be having issues, or at least a concern. Why do people feel that rushing into a relationship is a GOOD thing? To some of you, there is a girl I like and her name is Ami, she has never had a bf before and she has taken to liking me (for some reason or another) and her roomate (and my friend) wants us to be together and I agree but I do not want to rush into this relationship because I am afraid that we might have gone into this too quickly. We have not even known each other for half a year yet and have hung out face to face about 3 or 4 times in total. To me that is NOT enough time to justify feelings or even wanting to date because we have not hung out that much. Yes we do text but not on a daily basis and to me that is fine because I do not want to keep bothering here with small talk when she could be busy.

Am I wrong for thinking that it is too early to date her? I just do not want her first relationship to get ruined because we rushed into a relationship. I believe Ami understands me wanting to wait but our friend says that the longer I wait the less likely she will be interested in me.

I just want to know what I should do.

From what I can tell, you like her, she likes you, you haven't known her for that long nor do you hang around that often.

I say try to meet up with her some more. Dating can happen even if you don't know someone very well (e.g. happens a lot with online dating), and is the best way to see if you're compatible and enjoy each other's company.

The "rushing into it" would be trying to kiss her from the start and talking about baby names. Just go out a few times together and see how it goes.

Xannidel · 08-21-2012 10:14 PM

Yeah the problem is my panic attacks tend to muck up any plans I have with people but I do plan on having a small talk with Ami about me holding off asking her out and then a slightly longer chat with our friend on why she should not try to pressure me, just because she dated her current bf sort of fast does not mean I will do the same.

**SERIOUSLY THOUGH** · 08-22-2012 03:11 AM

Keep us updated Smile

Do try to hang out more often as a start, even with a group of friends. Then let things flow

Xannidel · 08-22-2012 04:40 AM

We hung out for a few hours today, it was fun and I hope we hang out more often as well but with classes starting up for both of us soon, that will be a little difficult at first but we will manage.

Equinox · 08-22-2012 06:07 AM

Personally, I'm single, but looking. I'd like someone that I easily get along with. I'd have to be able to talk to her about whatever and whenever.

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